Taking Charge of Your Behavior
(The Power of Perceptionism)
What if you could deliberately access your neurological network and then “tell” it to produce a chosen physical or emotional behavior and then, without effort, experience the behavior?
What if you could use your conscious awareness to, in effect, “tell” your brain to instigate a behavior and then automatically find yourself behaving that way?
What if you could tell your brain to stop an unwanted behavior, replace it with a desirable behavior and just have it happen by telling it to?
What if you could just say to your brain, “Make me stop smoking; make me stop eating between meals; make me feel confident; make me more financially responsible and then just have it come to pass? What if you could just say, “Make me more secure; eliminate my fears and phobias; bring to me peace of mind and a sense of wellbeing,” or any number of other capricious instructions, and then automatically find yourself behaving in accordance with your demands? What if you could just say to yourself, “Do it,” and then find yourself automatically doing it?
The remarkable thing is that you can. It isn’t magic; it just seems like it is. That is to say, you can if you know the language by which your mind and brain communicate. You may be asking yourself, well… what is the language, where do I learn it and how do I use it?
The means by which your mind and brain communicate is already in place! It is already in you and it is already functional. It is a normal process that can be used either for you or against you — your brain doesn’t care either way. All human beings have it. All human beings can intentionally use it. The process of which I speak is the same process a hypnotist or hypnotherapist uses, through suggestion, to cause a change to occur in their hypnotic subject. It is the same process a person uses for “self-hypnosis.”
So what is the process and how do you intentionally use it? What is the language by which your mind and your brain communicate?
Your Brain Only Understands the Perception that Words Create
It is simply a matter of your brain responding to your perceptions! By perceptions, I mean the way you perceive yourself, the way you perceive your surroundings, the way you perceive other people and how you perceive yourself responding to those things. Change your perceptions and you change your behavior. Your brain does not understand words, nor does it respond to words alone. Your brain only understands the perception that words create. Your brain is impersonal and does not care how it causes you to act or feel.
Your brain cannot tell the difference between what is real and what you perceive to be real. Whether your perceptions are reality-based or just imagined to be real, your brain automatically causes you to respond as though your perceptions are reality.
I lead every person who comes into my office through a series of demonstrations so they can experience the truth of these statements — and their perceptions are transformed into behavior.
Simply put: Your perceptions are literally instructions to your brain and your brain, in turn, automatically produces the behavior that causes the perception to become physical reality — behavior that can be empirically observed and measured.
We must recognize, however, that we do have physical limitations and mental limitations. Each person has a limit as to how fast they can run (probably something short of a mile in three minutes) or how high they can jump (probably something short of ten feet). Some people are physically limited as the result of physical injury, disease or old age. Others are mentally limited because of brain damage or birth defects. Most of us do not possess the mental power of a genius, the physical ability of a sports superstar or the dexterity of a concert pianist. However, too often we fall far short of our limitations because we never attempt to discover what they are — we really don’t know what our limitations are until we have reached them. But let’s not place false limitations on ourselves by perceiving that either we can’t or we shouldn’t.
Your Brain Is the Control Center of Your Physical and Emotional Behavior
Your Mind Tells Your Brain What to Do
For clarification: When I talk about your mind I mean that part of your being that is your conscious awareness — your ability to think. When I talk about your brain, I mean the physical organ that is housed in your head that controls every function of your physical being. Your mind is at the center of your creativity, inspiration and intuition. Your brain determines how you act and feel.
Your mind and your brain are two different things. Your brain is physical. Your mind is intangible. It appears that your brain gives rise to your mind (your awareness); however, your mind is the essence of your thoughts.
Your brain is the control center of your entire physical, emotional and mental being. Your brain responds to information it receives from your five senses, exterior stimuli, and your perceptions (how you “see” yourself interacting with the world around you). Your perceptions tell your brain how to respond to those stimuli at every moment of your life.
During the nine months or so you spent in your mother’s womb, countless mechanisms were genetically organized to create your life, and at birth your brain had been “pre-wired” to keep all of the physical functions running that are needed for maintaining a continuance of life. In fact, at birth you had more neurons in your brain than you have in your brain now. During the early development your brain, the neurons that were not needed to pattern your behavior (physical and mental) died off and will never be replaced. Instead, new pathways are created between neurons as you learn new tasks and the pathways are strengthened the more you perform the task; you do not grow new neurons in your cerebral cortex.
Your brain was “hard-wired” to send messages to your heart, not only to keep it beating, but to tell it to speed up when the cells of your body need more oxygen or energy. Your brain regulates your body temperature by causing your body to perspire when it is hot and to shiver when it gets cold. It receives from and sends messages to every organ, gland and cell of your body. Your brain instructs your body to produce antibodies to heal you when you are ill; senses if you’re injured; signals you when your body needs food; and motivates behavior that keeps you safe and causes you to feel love, compassion, fear, guilt, remorse… If your brain stopped working, all of your life support systems would shut down and your body would die.
There are dozens of separate organs that constitute your brain — each performs a distinct function. With recent technological advances in brain imaging equipment — functional magnetic resonance imaging (FMRI) — neurologists have identified the functional purpose of almost all of these organs. At least, which part of your brain is active when you are engaged in a particular task. For example: It is common knowledge that the left and right hemispheres of your brain generally perform different functions — one for creativity (right brain) and the other (left brain) for logical, rational thinking. Depending on which you are engaged in (creativity or analytical thinking) the brain imaging equipment displays which hemisphere is most active. Brain imaging equipment also can show which part of the brain is active when you are stressed out, anxious, sad or happy.
By means of a vast network of neurons (nerves), your brain controls all of your physiological processes. Your brain relies on electro-chemical processes to send and receive messages to and from every cell of your body —including the billions of cells in your brain itself. How you “feel” (physically and emotionally) and how you act is determined by how your brain interprets both sensed and perceived information.
All mood-altering drugs (the ones that are suppose to make you feel good) either block the “bad guy” signals from being passed to the next neuron so you don’t know you feel crummy, or “fool” each neuron by replicating the “good guy” chemicals that in turn send a false message to your brain — so you think you feel fine.
As far as the use of mood-altering drugs is concerned, my question has always been: Where did the crummy-feeling “bad guy” signals come from, anyway? What caused them to get into the network in the first place? In addition, what happened to the “good guy” chemicals that were supposed to make us feel good naturally? Where did they go? Could the demise or creation of emotion-based signals (and their corresponding good or bad consequences) be as simple as how we perceive ourselves and how we perceive what is happening around us? Are our perceptions ultimately responsible for how we feel and how we act? I believe the answer is yes! You can be feeling really great and then get some bad news and within a second you feel gloomy. Your immediate physical circumstances did not change in that moment but your perceptions of the bad news sent out the “bad guy” signals and consequently you felt terrible.
Your Mind Instructs Your Brain
Do you know that by using your conscious awareness you can literally tell your brain what to do — how to act and feel — automatically? Did you know that your mind controls your brain and not the other way around? Your brain does not decide what you think about and your brain does not choose your perceptions; your mind does!
Have you ever (using rational, logical thinking) wondered why, at times, you don’t take action to do something that you know you ought to do? For some unknown reason, you just don’t. Have you ever wondered why you don’t maintain a particular behavior (exercise on regular basis, fix stuff around the house, do yard work or spend more time with your family, for example) when on a conscious, rational level you even want to? You just keep on putting it off. Have you ever tried to stop a particular behavior (smoking, procrastinating, drinking, feeling stressed out or feeling sorry for yourself), knowing on a conscious level that to desist would be good for you, but you keep on doing it anyway? Have you ever wondered why, although you know you have the ability to “do it,” for some unknown, irrational reason, you just don’t? Have you ever experienced any similar paradoxical behaviors and wondered why?
If you have, the answer to your wondering is as simple as: You’ve unknowingly been sending your brain messages to produce behavior that you don’t want, instead of intentionally sending your brain instructions to produce the behavior that you do want.
It can be easily demonstrated that the ability to take charge of your own behavior does not come from trying to directly control your behavior but lies within your ability to choose your perceptions. Taking charge of your behavior is as simple as choosing your perceptions — choosing how you think of yourself and how you perceive yourself interacting with what is going on around you.
Communication Between Mind and Brain
If you want to communicate with your brain you must converse with it in its language. “Self-talk” is meaningless, as far as communicating with your brain is concerned. Your brain does not understand words! Your brain understands and responds only to the mental images (perceptions) that are created by words. The problem with self-talk and with other people talking to you — in an attempt to get you to change — is that often what is being said creates a perception other than what the words were intended to create (sometimes exactly the opposite perception).
My hypnotherapy sessions are designed to get your mind to send your brain the right instructions — the messages that produce the behavior that you choose and desire to experience — so your everyday life is in harmony with what you choose it to be. I call this process perceptionism!
Examples of words creating perceptions other than what the words were intended to create:
- Let’s say that you are struggling with a self-confidence issue. Saying to yourself, “I will be self-confident,” does not produce the self-perception that you are self-confident. It probably produces the perception that you are not self-confident — “If I were already self-confident I wouldn’t be saying to myself that I’m going to be!”
- If you are dealing with a weight problem, saying to yourself, “I am going to stop eating between meals; I’m going to exercise; I’m going to eat just a little bit of the right foods; I’m going to cut out the junk foods,” does not produce the self-perception that now you eat only at meal times; now you eat only the right foods; now you stick to your exercise routine; now you behave as a trim person behaves. Instead, saying those words probably produces thoughts of, “If I were already behaving that way, why would I be telling myself that I’m going to?”
- Saying, “I’m going to stop smoking,” creates the perception that you haven’t stopped.
- Saying, “I am going to get over my claustrophobia,” does not produce the perception that you enjoy using elevators.
- Saying, “I am going to eliminate stress,” triggers the self-perception that you are stressed out and that finding peace of mind has to be difficult.
The bottom line is: You take charge of your own behavior by taking charge of your perceptions. Your brain takes your self-perceptions and transforms them into the perceived behavior. My approach to hypnotherapy is based on changing your perceptions so they are consistent with the behavior you desire to experience and consequently your brainpower kicks in and you find yourself behaving in accordance with your new perception — automatically!
If you have any questions, or want to make an appointment, contact me by phone 480.966.8571 or email me by clicking on firstname.lastname@example.org. I will be happy to answer all of your questions.